Getting the Ex Back
You know the feeling… it’s like a cavern has been ripped through your stomach and someone has ripped out the most tender part of your being… It’s there 24/7. That shallow, haunting, helpless, nauseating feeling that relentlessly shades every aspect of your life from the time it starts.
The Break Up!
Like John Mayer wrote in one of his brilliant songs “…when you’re dreaming with a broken heart, the waking up is the hardest part, you fall out of bed, and down on your knees, and for a moment you can hardly breathe…” The feeling is depressing!
Then you go a little insane. You know the symptoms. The constant sending of text messages, the constant emails, phoning your ex many times a day, always checking your emails or text messages to see whether they have had a change of mind… you’re feeling so depressed and possibly even debating as to why they left you, that you have to turn the radio off because every song makes you remember them and, as well as a increasing loss of want to eat, you also have the problem of bingeing on food and drinking to contend with until it eventually ends in the drunk telephone call (those few drinks were supposed to make you not think about them…) where you might even beg them to take you back.
Now while not everybody does all these things and has all these feelings the fact still remains that for the majority of people involved in a separation with their partner will have at least some of these feelings to contend with.
Let me tell you, at this point you need a little more than an apology and the promise that you will change (even if it wasn’t your fault) to get them back. What you need is something which is going to make them reconsider their choice and begin to show interest in a reunion, in other words, something to give you ‘hand’.
Now even if you have been acting like a nutter and have done most (if not all) of the above stalker tactics , it is still not too late to regain some of that lost ground and alter the situation. So instead of going down the path of more degrading behaviour, take a step back and in a relaxed manner, give them some spark which is going to reinflame their interest.
The first thing to do should be to write them a short note saying that although you have been behaving a little nuts, you have now come to your mind and that now you have thought about it, you now endorse] the break up. You even wished for it yourself from time to time before it actually happened. Don’t forget that one of the easiest to spot and predictable traits of people, is that they always crave what is not available!
What you need at this point is some pretty unconventional methods and this is just the first of them. This is part of the overall getting connected again technique which is essential to getting back together. Think about it… being able to listen to music again, not to mention enjoying food, resting peacefully again and being back in a healthy loving relationship with a future…